Comments on: I sure would like a box http://www.hmtk.com/archives/i-sure-would-like-a-box.html It's all in the luck of the dice Thu, 04 Dec 2008 02:39:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: wikked1 http://www.hmtk.com/archives/i-sure-would-like-a-box.html#comment-182441 wikked1 Wed, 28 Nov 2007 01:57:48 +0000 http://www.hmtk.com/archives/i-sure-would-like-a-box.html#comment-182441 i want a diamond! how is that for direct mr smartypants? I am so sick of people pondering the "differences" between men and women. Let's just call it the difference between people. sometimes it is nice to feel needed, and cherished and loved. i want a diamond! how is that for direct mr smartypants? I am so sick of people pondering the “differences” between men and women. Let’s just call it the difference between people.
sometimes it is nice to feel needed, and cherished and loved.

]]> By: Ms. Q http://www.hmtk.com/archives/i-sure-would-like-a-box.html#comment-179663 Ms. Q Sun, 25 Nov 2007 21:52:24 +0000 http://www.hmtk.com/archives/i-sure-would-like-a-box.html#comment-179663 Great post on relationships and communication! I don't like the indirect approach and try not to do it myself. Interestingly, I was surprised when a male friend of mine kept doing it. He'd ask me questions like, "Are there cookies in your pack?" or, "Are you hungry?" when what he was really asking was he wanted the cookies and he was hungry. He had no idea he was being so indirect since he was pretty direct in all other areas of his life. He noticed it after I would just answer his question. "Yes" to the cookies, "No" to being hungry. THEN he was forced to be direct .. and laugh at himself. Turned out that as a kid, WANTING things was bad and used against him so he began communicating in this way to not be obvious or have deniability (if that is a word). Great post on relationships and communication! I don’t like the indirect approach and try not to do it myself. Interestingly, I was surprised when a male friend of mine kept doing it.

He’d ask me questions like, “Are there cookies in your pack?” or, “Are you hungry?” when what he was really asking was he wanted the cookies and he was hungry.

He had no idea he was being so indirect since he was pretty direct in all other areas of his life. He noticed it after I would just answer his question. “Yes” to the cookies, “No” to being hungry. THEN he was forced to be direct .. and laugh at himself. Turned out that as a kid, WANTING things was bad and used against him so he began communicating in this way to not be obvious or have deniability (if that is a word).

]]> By: HMTKSteve http://www.hmtk.com/archives/i-sure-would-like-a-box.html#comment-172858 HMTKSteve Tue, 20 Nov 2007 10:49:23 +0000 http://www.hmtk.com/archives/i-sure-would-like-a-box.html#comment-172858 I used to respond in a humorous manner to such requests to the point that my wife and daughter no longer ask questions in this way. I used to respond in a humorous manner to such requests to the point that my wife and daughter no longer ask questions in this way.

]]> By: Boso http://www.hmtk.com/archives/i-sure-would-like-a-box.html#comment-172080 Boso Mon, 19 Nov 2007 20:07:50 +0000 http://www.hmtk.com/archives/i-sure-would-like-a-box.html#comment-172080 Well said !! Too true....!! My mother and my wife both try this approach when they want something from me, I prefer to play dumb until they come out and ask directly for what they want. Well said !! Too true….!!

My mother and my wife both try this approach when they want something from me, I prefer to play dumb until they come out and ask directly for what they want.

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