This came up today as my Wife, daughter and myself went to see "Happy Feet"...
We arrived a half-hour early to insure we got good seats.
We were first in to the theatre and took center seats right above the handicap area. This insures no ones head will be in your way. It's not much of an issue as the theatre in Danbury CT has gone to seating that is almost as steep as IMAX seating.
At near movie time a couple we know (with kids in tow) showed up and they asked us to move down several seats so their group of five could sit together.
Now, we had choice seats and had been in the theatre for half an hour already. This family showed up just before show time (well, show time is 20 minutes after stated show time) and asked us to move out of our choice seats so they could have them.
There were three of us and two seats on my left were open and three on our right. That makes five seats. There were also five seat sections available of "less choice" seats.
My wife said we should move over but I said no. I would have moved over one seat but not two. Two seats would have pushed us from direct center to "off to the left" which would have entailed some neck twisting AND there would have been seats in front of us.
So, was I being a dick for not moving or should I have moved?
Remember, this is opening weekend for this movie and each showing had been sold out. We were planning to hit the earlier showing but it was sold out so we bought tickets for the next show and left for a while.
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Were you a dick? Hell NO. If these people wanted choice seats for 5 then they should have showed up 1/2 HOUR EARLIER!!! Your wife was WRONG to ask you to move…I definitely wouldn’t have.Why should THEIR kids get the better seating? By the way…I am the mom, just in case your wife says I am siding with you because I am a guy.I wouldn’t have put my kids in a worse seating arrangement just because these people got there late.
Thanks for siding with me. We argued for a few days about this and then she came around and sided with me.
I agree! Why should you be inconvenienced because they want to sit together? You would have had to enjoy your experience less so that they could enjoy theirs more. They could have showed up early as you did, or waited to see the movie another weekend when it would not be as crowded.
I’m writing a piece for the professional (live) theatre I work at about etiquette right now. You’re perfectly in your right to say “no, we shalln’t move.” The other party knew you, an they were five seats around you - If they wanted to sit with you, they should have split up to take those five seats, or alternatively, selected different seats. You’re there to watch the film, not to banter over afternoon tea.
Thanks Phil,
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BTW: They did split up and sit to either side of us.